What Matters

Every girl wants a Prince Charming. And every guy, a Princess. Do we actually find the kind of person we're looking for? Do we end up being with them?

Sometimes, you love someone for their looks. Your love towards the person is based upon fantasy and idealization, instead of experience. I'm not a believer in love at first sight. But there's nothing quite like feeling a spark of attraction between you and someone you just met. When you get to know each other, the infatuation diminishes.

Sometimes, you have feelings towards a friend with whom you love to spend time. I'm of the opinion that the best relationships are ones that take place between two people that are close friends. It's easier to be with someone who already knows the true you - your likes/dislikes, mood, attitude, and what makes you tick. You're comfortable with each other and there's always something to talk about. While some friends manage to find a way of making things work romantically, others are better as friends.

Sometimes, love just happens. You fall in love with the most unexpected person at the most unexpected time. The kind of feeling based upon knowing and accepting someone. You feel passion, caring and respect so strong that you feel it regardless of what the other person does.

Say, you've found "The one". When you and your partner share common interests, life is peachy. What if you both don't like the same sort of TV shows, movies, books, music and food? What if you have different views on everything, and you can't seem to agree on anything? Maybe it doesn't seem like such a big deal. But when you start living together, life becomes a constant struggle. You cannot push them to adopt a hobby. You have to respect that they have their own passions. Things can get so frustrating that you want to give up. But you love this person, and you can't bear the thought of a life without them. You feel conflicted. So what should you do? Work through the struggles. Compromise. It doesn't necessarily mean you've to sacrifice. It's just giving each other the space to do what they like and learning to like some of what they like, so you can spend time together. You can't always have life the easy way. When you find love, you've to do everything it takes to hold on to it.