Ouch, That Hurts


People you truly love are the ones with whom you let your guards down and hence you are most vulnerable to be hurt by them. In fact, people you love the most have the power to hurt you the most.

If you don't express yourself when others hurt you, then they have no way to know that you did not like what they did to you. So they keep repeating the same behaviour and continue the same approach. You will find others hurting you all the time, not necessarily because they are bad, but because they never knew that they were hurting you. Letting others know that you are hurt, and why do you feel hurt helps them to understand what is important to you.

You often deny being hurt because you prefer to suffer with the person than without the person. But remember, expressing hurt when it happens is important to keeping any relationship safe and honest.

If you don't object, others will simply act in their best interest. If you allow others to use you, you will be used. If you allow others to take you for granted, you will be taken for granted. If you allow others to hurt you, you will be hurt. Most problems that you suffer would be solved if you could stand up for yourself at the time of you being hurt. If you don't stand for yourself, who will?

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